Hi friends! It’s been about a whole month since I last wrote a blog post. I missed you guys! I promise I’ll get better once life slows down a bit. Last night, I was going through some older pictures of myself holding my firstborn. It dawned on me how much I’ve learned and grown from being a first-time mom to the mother I am today. 3 whole babies later ❤️ I’ve come so far. My confidence in being a mom has grown since, I realize how much more I value family time now, and how different motherhood can be for everyone, including me. I am still here making mistakes and learning as I go, but I fully trust that every experience will make me a better mom. Here are my 6 things that I wish I had known earlier on in motherhood.
It really does take a village
Raising babies is really so much better when your family is a part of it. It is 10000 percent true when they say it takes a village to raise one. If you can count on your family to happily and unconditionally help you with your children, consider yourself so very blessed. I, myself, count my blessings every single day for my amazing parents, in-laws, and every single person in my family who helps with pickups, drop-offs, and last-minute favors. I’m thankful for them starting traditions with our babies, sending food over when we are sick, and checking up on them when they are under the weather. They help my husband and I guide our children, protect them, and they make sure that they are so loved. They are everything we could ask for and more.
It goes by too fast
I wish I could have realized back when I had my first daughter how fast and valuable every single second is. I wish I could go back in time and make it go in slow motion because here I am almost 15 years later. It feels like I just closed my eyes for a second, and someone fast forwarded time. Then I had my second baby, and within a blink, she will be 8. Then, I had my third, and he’s a few days short of turning 3. Honestly, this is my biggest advice I could ever give another mom. I would ask them to cherish everything. Be thankful for even the nights that seem too long, the times where the crying won’t stop, and the days where we can’t get our mom shit together. Those days will be gone way too fast.
What works for others, won’t always work for you
And vice versa. I am always and was always thankful for getting advice on my babies when they were sick or just for anything in general. There is nothing wrong with people wanting to give input, but remember what works for some mothers won’t work or align with others. If it doesn’t work for you, let it go. It’s ok. Don’t feel guilty if you prefer to have a different way of doing something specific that has worked for you. You are raising our baby, and only you know what’s best.
Never forget to give yourself grace
Social media has given us this perception that everything is supposed to be perfect, even motherhood. I am sorry, but that is a lie. Motherhood is a beautiful thing, but it’s not perfect, and that is what makes it so beautiful. Many times, I have had moments where I feel like my kids are driving me crazy only to miss them when they are asleep. I can’t help and laugh at whatever it is was that happened earlier. When I had my first born, I wanted to be a perfect mom. It took time to realize that no mom is perfect. I have learned from my mistakes through experiences and mistakes even to this day and 3 kids later. Honestly, don’t think any mom has it all together all the time.
You do find yourself again
Motherhood comes with so many changes, and change can be good. I had my first daughter at a really young age when no one really was having kids, so I didn’t really have a mom “ Tribe”. I went through my body changing after birth to pretty much my whole life changing entirely. Looking back, I wish I had another mom friend that I could have texted daily and talked about our kids together and postpartum and gone on playdates together and hopefully our kids would grow up and be best friends together. I wish I knew back then that while I may not go back to being the person I was before, I found a better, stronger, and kinder person now. I have become this person who is so comfortable in her skin. Who likes even the most imperfect rolls on her stomach and who is ok with not having a flat belly. 3 kids later, and every time I have a new baby, I think “ Yeah! I did that”. I grew a whole human.
Mom shaming is real
It’s REAL. Mom shaming happens, and it sucks to see it happen to yourself or anyone else. Don’t do it. It’s mean, and we are all trying our best to raise KIND babies in this world that desperately kindness. If you don’t agree with how someone is parenting or in what they believe in. Scroll past, unfollow, or unfriend. As a wonderful friend of mine once said, “ It’s 2024. We are not mom shaming aymore”
Let me know in the comments something you wish you had known earlier in motherhood
CSY ❤️
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