My tips to being a Happy working Mom

Hi friends, I hope this blog finds you with a nice strong cup of coffee in your hands (or a tall glass of wine)-as we wind down from a busy Holiday week and start a fresh new week and month. As we wrap up the year, I like to take time to reflect on how this year has been. I like to reflect specifically on how I can become a better person, better wife, better daughter, but first and most importantly, a better mom to my kids.

I am in no way, shape, or form a perfect mom. In fact, as a mom of 3, I have come to the conclusion that motherhood isn’t intended to be perfect. But damn right, I will always try to be a better mom even as I learn new things every day ( sometimes by making mistakes. Being a mom is hard. It’s hard, it can be overwhelming, and it can be lonely, but its the most rewarding thing in my life.. As moms, we are always juggling so much at once that sometimes it can feel like we are losing our sanity. In between making sure our babies feel loved and taken care of, running a household, drop-offs, after-school events, bath time, bedtime. and all the in-between while for most of us also working a full-time job.

As a working mom, I think it is normal to carry some mom guilt when we are feeling tired after a long workday. It can be normal to feel overwhelmed if our home is messy or we have a list of unfinished things to get to while also wanting to spend the rest of the day with our littles. While all this sounds like alot, I always try to remember there is a difference between being a perfect mom and a happy mom. While I have probably said many times in this blog that I am not a perfect mom, I can say I am a Happy one.

If you’ve followed me in the past years, you’ve seen I am on a journey of living a happy life with intention. This has become a very important thing for me as a mom, and it has to do with me with choosing to be happy. Being a happy mom does not mean my home is spotless or that my kids won’t fight with each other and that they do as I wish all the time. It means I choose to happily accept the ups and downs of being a mom. It means not comparing myself to other moms because really no one has their crap together – and if they say they always do, they are lying. One thing that I can tell you is that if you are happy and choose happy-, you are a better everything, and that includes being a better mom. Here are some small habits that I have done in the past years that have made me a happier mom. At the end of the day, we are all just trying to just be the best moms we can be ❤️

“ Put your home to sleep”

This is a total game changer for someone who works from home some days or spends a lot of time at home. Every night, I like to make sure my trash is taken out, the toys put away, and any clothes folded away. The next morning, I am not rushing around trying to do it all before drop off and clocking in to work. It really does make a difference and sets the mood for you the next day.

“Look good to Feel good”

I know you hear it all the time, but I swear by it. If I don’t look good, I don’t feel good, and then I don’t feel my best. I am not talking about pounding on makeup, I am talking about brushing your hair, the regular everyday makeup, and good ol pair of jeans that make you feel good. It is a little pick me up to get me going all day. I even run with makeup on because I feel good and I have better runs. There is nothing I can’t handle when I feel put together.

Spend one on one time with your husband-

I am always going to be the first one to say this, but I LOVE one on one time with my husband. We can go to dinner together, go out for a drink, go out for-ice cream, do early dinner, or even just go on a walk. It makes us happy, and we go back knowing we had have time together as adults and our marriage is better because of that and I am a better mom because of it.. With 3 kids, it’s sometimes harder to go out as often, but time is never wasted when we are together, and we try to schedule in small dates a couple times a month.

Trust in Jesus-

If you read my last blog about being growing my faith and becoming a more devoted Catholic, then you know that my life has truly been touched by doing so. I have always been a naturally over thinker and anxious person. I could worry about everything for no reason. Over the past years, going joining my family at mass every weekend has given me peace. It has allowed me to put all in his hands and know that whatever I can’t overcome on my own, he is there with me. I trust in him to guide me and my family. I have no more constant anxiety or stress. I can trust all in him, and my life is 1000 times better and happier with him in my life. I am a happier mom because of him.

Block time for an outside walk or run – Outside does wonder for your mental health –

Walking breaks throughout the day are non-negotiable for me. They make me happy. If I am working from home or the office, I always take my breaks and put in a good 30 minutes in just walking – separate from my runs or any workout I do that day. Being outside is so good for you and such a good distraction from your everyday routine.

Have a good Morning and Bedtime routine –

We have a strict morning and bedtime schedule at home, and I know my kids and my husband would sometimes want me to be more lenient on the routine, but it makes me so happy after a long day knowing that the kids are showered and have brushed their teeth. I can then unwind, read a book, or be on my phone for a bit, knowing that the kids are ready for when their bedtime comes.

Hope you enjoyed reading some of my tips ❤️ let me know in the comments what’s some of your fave tips that make you happy are.

-Csy

Little photo dump of my babies ❤️